I used to have this neck injury. As usual I was peacefully minding my own business, sitting in my friend’s car when a taxi driver nearly caused him to have an accident. The front wheel on the passenger side dropped into a small hole and I felt my neck move to the side and back. I thought nothing of it until about three days later when I woke up in extreme pain. I could not move my neck or my back. I went to the doctor and was given anti-inflammatory medicine. When I went to get the x-ray the doctor told me that based on the movement of my neck, it could have been broken. I suffered for weeks with this thing until it finally subsided. I noticed however, that when I was under extreme stress, I would experience this pain. It was so bad that I would not be able to move my back at all and had to seek the help of a chiropractor.
I do not know when the light bulb went off in my head that when I was under stress I actually EXPECTED to experience this pain…. and naturally I did. I decided that I was under this burden long enough and when I noticed that I was under stress, I decided to get above it. I refused to let stress get the better of me. I refused to accept pain and suffering. In a short time, I realised that I was not experiencing this pain anymore and that has been years now.
In the same way, remembering the things that others do to hurt us cause us an immense amount of pain. These old injuries have a way of resurfacing even though we say we have forgiven. My Pastor puts it this way “when we forgive someone, we “dis-member” the hurt. However when we “re-member” the hurt we are actually retrieving it from where it was cast and putting it back together.” Have you ever tried to put together a jig saw puzzle. Remembering a past offense is like doing just that. My friend Judene once said “God cast her sins in the sea of forgetfulness and He has put a NO FISHING sign there”. If you keep remembering past offenses, you are fishing illegally. In other words, you have control over what you will allow into your space. You can choose what to remember. If something triggers this memory, you can refuse to entertain the thought. Every sin including unforgiveness begins with a thought.
Your body, mind (soul) and spirit is what makes up your temple. Just as the physical temple has gates and walls, you have gates and walls around your temple. Your gates are your praise and your walls – your salvation (Isaiah 60:18). Praise is our gateway to God. For indeed as we are saved from our enemies our deliverance becomes a wall around us – a stronghold against the enemy and our praise become our gates (Excerpt from AND THE PRISONERS HEARD THEM [S Dallas]).
A wound cannot get better if you keep picking at it. It is more likely to become infected, poisoning the system and aggravating the injury. Everything the enemy throws at us is designed for one of three things – to steal, to kill or to destroy. Someone once said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It just does not work that way. I guarantee that it will steal your joy, destroy your friendship and cause death to your purpose.
Do you really want the burdens of unforgiveness, resentment, bitterness? Cast your cares upon Jesus for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7) He also said that we are to give Him our burdens for His yoke is easy and His burden is light (Matthew 11:30). Now that is an offer you should not refuse.
Sylvia M Dallas
Poet, Author, Photographer and Teacher of the Word and CEO and Director of Creator Services at The Publisher's Notebook Limited based in Jamaica. She is married to Rohan Dallas, is a proud grandmother, loves coffee (Jamaican, of course), loves great tasting and healthy food, love to cook and is an unabashed follower of Jesus Christ. Her books AND THE PRISONERS HEARD THEM, THE RIGHT KIND OF INTIMACY and THE BED DEFILED are available on Amazon.