July 22, 2014

For better, for worse

Today is our wedding anniversary.  We have just completed three years and God has blessed us to see the start of a fourth year. I would like to believe that I have grown a lot especially as I break mindsets that I have had over the years.  I have always said that if I apply even one principle of the Word of God to my life, I am obligated to apply all.

Which brings me to the submission pill. That was a hard one to swallow.  I came to understand though, that submission does not mean I agree with everything you say, but that I can disagree with respect.  It also means that if my husband insists on sticking to a point, I can speak to his authority and trust God to deal with it. I have never seen this NOT work.

In the last three years, we have had many trials, not the least,of which is interference and very hard times. We have learnt to overcome together. I have learned that relying on myself is not an option in a marriage. Co-dependence is a necessity. Coming from a background where I always relied on my strengths, it was a strange thing indeed to say to someone else, ‘I need this’.

In any marriage where Jesus is the center, the trials are easier to bear. The lack does not bother, because God proves himself faithful at ALL times and without exception.

Challenges have arisen that have caused me to weep, I mean ‘cow-bawling’.  This happens when I try to resolve issues in my own strength instead of relying on God to guide us.  I guess that a lot can be said in favor of independence, but I do not see anywhere in the Bible where God wants us to be independent of each other and independent of Him.

As my Pastor’s wife Caren puts it “we are together to work out the holiness in each other”.  I can tell you, that is the tough part.  Having to bite back a harsh word in retaliation, learning not to be vengeful, praying for each other even though a few minutes ago we were just angry, overcoming all the challenges that come at us from all angles.

At the end of the day though, we know that we have each other’s well being at heart.  We learn how to seek forgiveness and say we are sorry. We laugh together, have adventures together. We recognize that we would rather be with each other.  In the end next to dwelling in the secret place of the Most High God, my husband’s arms are still the safest place in the world for me. Happy anniversary my love.


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Sylvia M Dallas

Poet, Author, Photographer and Teacher of the Word and CEO and Director of Creator Services at The Publisher's Notebook Limited based in Jamaica. She is married to Rohan Dallas, is a proud grandmother, loves coffee (Jamaican, of course), loves great tasting and healthy food, love to cook and is an unabashed follower of Jesus Christ.  Her books AND THE PRISONERS HEARD THEM, THE RIGHT KIND OF INTIMACY and THE BED DEFILED are available on Amazon.

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3 Comments on “For better, for worse

JaNeil Lewis
July 22, 2014 at 11:58 am

It is GOD ALONE and not we ourselves! Happy Anniversary Guys with your collective wisdom and commitment you will continue to grow into HIM and EACH OTHER!!!

Michelle D.
July 23, 2014 at 4:41 am

Happy Anniversary you both.
This was very inspirational I love it.
Thank you.
Michelle 🙂

July 24, 2014 at 11:16 am

Happy Anniversary! God will continue to be there for you both – Just continue to let Him do His thing!


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